When I was 17, I was immature and had a vague concept of life. I used to get affected a lot by situations around me and had thousands of thoughts which my mind processed and it ended up wearing me out.
These thoughts took away the most precious thing I had at that time, the present. The present became unpleasant too!
I did have the habit of clinging to certain incidents and over-thinking about it. Over-thinking cost me some amazing opportunities and enjoyable times and later my academics.
I have met a lot of people who cling to their past. Maybe to just one incident or maybe to everything that happened to them. Some of them accuse God for whatever bad might have happened to them while others put the blame on someone else and they keep crying over the same issue again and again and again and in fact, they even give space to hatred in their hearts and forget the sacred ability we, as human beings have, of forgiving.
What changed me was a simple act of failure.
I had never failed in my life. But this one professional exam that I had given… it crushed me. But I am thankful to that blow. I am thankful because it taught me that only if you have the strength to get back up and move ahead to conquer, will you be successful in your life. Only if you have courage to face failure will you be able to fly. I did clear my exams in my next attempt and that too with unbelievable scores. But this failure, it taught me something very important.
When you keep your mind at peace, you will be able to process the necessary things faster than ever. You feel light. You feel free!
How can you keep your mind at peace? – Meditation, yes. Yoga, maybe. De-cluttering, definitely a yes.
I followed the third one.
De-cluttering your mind is not a simple and easy process but it is also that one thing which helps you effectively concentrate on your present.
While preparing for my exams the second time, I had only three months and 7 huge subjects to clear. I decided that I will make studies my whole and sole area of thought and nothing else will be given any space in my mind. I had thrown my phone and resorted to just one place – library. But this isn’t about how much I studied. This is about the indirect valuable lesson I learnt. After the exams, I felt different and after a while, it struck me. I had forgotten about whatever had happened in my past and I had even let go of my fears and vulnerabilities. I became open!
It is difficult, very difficult, to leave your past which affected you so much. It maybe a fight with your parents, a terrible break up, someone breaking your trust or even, you not accepting your own self.
But I will tell you what almost all the people say – Why to cry on spilt milk?
Yes, I know it is painful and I also know that your past just comes around so often. But if you decide, you will be able to achieve something that you will cherish for your life. De-clutter your thoughts!
I consider past as an incident which I can learn lessons from and I move on. I carry with me no qualms, no hatred, nothing. Either it’s love or it’s learning that I decidedly take ahead with me in present and I cherish it.
Your mind is built for some amazing things that even you do not think you will be able to achieve, but I guarantee it to you, yes I guarantee it you, that once you start letting go and stop thinking about the past, you will be left with a lot of space in your mind to do almost all of the things that you wanted to do or pursue. Free yourself from the baggage you carry. Also, I can only suggest this – Stop getting into unnecessary gossips or being judgemental about people. Be open to everyone and treat each person as a learning point. Even from the worst person you think there is, you can learn a lot. And that person will then just be a point and nothing else. It will stop bothering you in the future.
Accept your fears and vulnerabilities and move ahead to make them strong. Once you open your mind to present, your past will just be another history lesson! 🙂